Do I need a coach? It’s a question that you may have asked yourself from time to time. Elite athletes have them. Successful business leaders have them. Famous personalities have them. So too can you!
So what exactly is a coach, and when do you need one? In this article, I am going to explain what coaching is and share with you the 8 common signs that you may need a coach.
What is coaching and how will a coach help me?
Coaching is the process of raising self-awareness and unlocking potential through collaborative discussion. Simply put, a coach will help you to:
- Discover where you are.
- Define where you want to be.
- Decide how you are going to get there.
To quote Sir John Whitmore, “Coaching is unlocking people’s potential to maximise their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.”
8 signs that you may need a coach
1. Being held back by self-limiting beliefs
I can’t do it. I’m not good enough. I’m not worthy. How I feel is not important. Do you feel like this or use expressions like this regularly? We all have self-limiting beliefs from time to time, and in some instances, these self-imposed shackles can be so strong, that they keep us stuck in the past and prevent us from moving forward. It can be emotionally and physically exhausting. This is where a coach will help you to identify the root cause of these beliefs, process how you feel about them, and help you to move forward by overcoming counterproductive behaviours.
2. Lacking direction and purpose
Do you feel like something is lacking or missing? Not sure what you are doing, where you are going, or what you are going to do when you get there? Do you feel like you are living your very own groundhog day? Welcome to the club. Everyone experiences moments in their life when they feel directionless and lose sight of what’s important. This is where a coach will help you to gain some clarity around your direction and its importance, to set meaningful goals and commit to actionable plans.
3. Feeling stagnant or stuck
Were you once at the top of your game, but are now struggling to find any form? Are things just not working out the way you planned? Do you feel like you are taking one step forward and two steps back? Do you feel like a shadow of your former self? Do you find yourself focussing on negatives or blaming others for the way you feel? You’re not alone. Everyone has highs and lows in their life. This is where a coach will help you to identify what has changed between the past and present, to visualise what being at the top of your game looks like, and identify what needs to change for that to become a reality.
4. Lost enthusiasm and passion
Why should I bother? I’m not in the mood. Does it matter? This will be good enough. Do you feel like this or use expressions like this regularly? Have you lost that passion or spark? Do you lack energy and enthusiasm? Do you feel bored or lethargic? Are you doing stuff just for the sake of doing it? Everyone experiences these destructive behaviours from time to time. This is where a coach will help you to identify what has led you to feel this way, to explore how you would like to feel and how that feeling translates into action.
5. Feel out of comfort zone
Do you find yourself in unfamiliar territory? Are you in a role, or about to move into a role that you’ve never done before? Do you find yourself worrying about every little detail and asking what if all the time? Are you constantly double guessing yourself and avoiding having to make decisions? Do you feel like you are in a sink or swim situation? This is where a coach will help you to identify what you need to do to succeed, the barriers that might get in your way and how to overcome them.
6. Procrastinate and don’t follow through
Do you have a habit of finding reasons for delaying or not doing something? Are you constantly starting new things but never finishing them? Do you know what you need to do, but aren’t following through? Do you need more personal accountability? This is where a coach will help you to identify the reason behind this behaviour, to gain some clarity around your direction and its importance, to set meaningful goals and commit to actionable plans.
7. Feeling anxious and stressed
Do you feel frustrated or nervous? Do you experience headaches or stomachaches? Do you feel fatigued or have trouble sleeping? These are signs that you may be stressed, and while everyone experiences stress from time-to-time, it mustn’t interfere with your life. This is where a coach will help you to identify what triggers your anxiety and stress, to recognise that you cannot control everything and generate actions for managing stress and maintaining a positive attitude.
8. Butting heads
Are you constantly butting heads with certain types of people? Are there certain types of people who frustrate and infuriate you? Do you go out of your way to avoid having to communicate with some people? Are you finding it difficult to relate to some people? There are always going to be people we struggle to get on with. This is where a coach will help you to better understand and appreciate yourself and those around you and identify ways to relate to them better.
It doesn’t matter if you are the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, an elite athlete, partner or parent. Everyone experiences ups and downs, good times and bad times, highs and lows. Everyone experiences times in their life when they need someone in their corner.
Life wasn’t supposed to be easy, but it can be a little easier with the help of a coach!
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